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hey :) the name is amalina but im cool with mali.
or whatever nice.
im pretty laid-back.
im never serious.
haha well yea so get annoyed.
im a kid at heart, maybe a hippie too.
talk to me.
get to know me.
only then you can judge me.
:)
roar!
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Nov 15, 2010
"this is a good sign, having a broken heart. it means we have tried for something."

i dont regret- i wont.
i sometimes feel the words 'love' and 'relationship' are way too overrated. sometimes.
"i love you"
okay, say it and now lets take a leap into a far more serious and steady relationship, namely a commitment.
having to actually declare this very relationship, i felt like as if i were to get married; a so-called unbreakable vow that ties two people that seems so sacred you are ought to seek perfection in every single thing that you do together.
get it?
its okay if you dont. i have things with words and wacky ways of explaining them haha im sorry.
my point is, why should being in love and having a relationship are kind of stressful?
i guess that goes back to the idea of trying to get a good hold of it.
my whole life, i had been with two guys and being with them, we had our series of ups and downs- the roller coaster rides.
what makes me tick is that, in these two different relationships, with totally two different people, why was I the one who got my heart broken?
i do learn something, though. haha so yeah, i might not be the best person to give love and relationship advices but maybe, you can learn a thing or two.
first off is,

-communication: talk and share. if you dont want to tell your partner anything, then just dont. the mistake that we often make is that, we lie- we make up untrue stuff in the mean of not wanting him or her gets hurt. always remember that, a little white lie will lead to another lie, which will lead to a bigger lie. also, know that communication is a two-way process= when one talks, one has to listen and vice-versa.

- on being sensitive: try to understand your partner and the situation that theyre in before you go into an outburst. its the fundamental law of problem solving- observe and analyze. after you come up with an assumption, do test the theory (which brings us back to numero uno- talk, talk, and talk). ask your partner, put yourself in your partner's shoes, and comfort them the best way you can.

- full understanding: not even knowing his or her favorite color is a no-no. when you decide to be with someone, immediately take the effort to get to know them from the simplest thing like favorite movie to deep, emotional stuff. every moment that is spent together is perhaps the best way to read and understand your partner. we often assume people without even knowing who and what they really are. watch their body languages and behaviors- youll be surprised with what youll find.

- sincerity: the moment you set your eyes and heart on your partner, you know that he or she is the one- or should be the one. love them sincerely with all your heart. that way, you wont even think of hurting them and messing up in the first place.

its not wrong to set a bar to what we look for in someone- everybody wants the best, am i right or AM I RIGHT? :)
if youve been in and out of love, dont sweat it. look at those bittersweet moments as hurdles that you just have to pass through before you get to the finishing line.
in the mean time, hershey's extra dark chocolate and great tvs are awesome healers! (trust me :D)

till then,
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